It’s because we are social creatures who are not entirely in control of our schemas, or conceptualisations. We can’t just decide to have logical opinions and have it work instantly. There’s always a difficulty, and the difficulty scales with personal relevance and importance. When we aren’t in control, society decides how we define things like “man” and “woman”. And the internal sense demands that we be able to categorise ourselves as the preferred gender, to the standards of not just our ego but also our irrational id.

some philosophers would even argue that there’s no reality but social reality and both are one and the same.

Some politicians would argue that social reality is oppressive and must be replaced with social unreality - http://soulism.net/

This article may have some direct relevance to you: https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/so-you-found-out-youre-agender-because-you-don-t-understand-trans-people-886fdee6f178

That’s not what paragraph 9 is about.

What did you think of paragraph 9 in My article?

Me neither. I always post My own medium blog like it’s a MySpace post. You don’t see Me claiming it’s anything it isn’t.

I think you should keep reading for 10 more words. I elaborated on exactly what you’re talking about in the 10 words after that quote.

How long would you say it takes to change your username and pfp on Matrix if you know exactly what you’re doing and have done it plenty of times before? 20 seconds? Pluralkit can do a proxy in 2 seconds. 20 seconds is not an acceptable delay to sending a chat message to most people, but 2 seconds is.

And what if two members of a system are in a conversation, possibly with a third person? Is it going to retroactively change the username and pfp on the old messages? Cause that would turn the conversation to complete nonsense. Imagine I’m having a discussion with some friends, two of whom are in a system, I step away to go to the toilet, and when I come back 5 minutes later I can’t tell who was talking in the last 5 minutes.

Well, there are a lot of discord users who are allies and believe in supporting others, and that’s why

No, I don’t know.

No, I definitely have friends who are allies and who care about accessibility for their friends.

That’s really strange, this seems like the sort of Lemmy instance where people would care about accessibility the minute they heard about the issue

Plurality is a lot more common than most people think. The existence of pluralkit exposed a LOT of people to the idea of plurality and got them realising they were already plural. Myself included.

It’s kind of like how a lot of lesbians didn’t understand their own identities until they heard Katy Perry sing “I kissed a girl”.

Furthermore, imagine you’re on a server with 500 active members, and there are 5 systems who use pluralkit. That server has probably had the “why are you a bot” “I’m using pluralkit” conversation dozens of times. All 500 people know how important pluralkit is. On Discord, there are dozens of allies for every one system.

I don’t know. Maybe one day I’ll look into the Matrix API and see if it’s possible. Theoretically it should be easy as long as webhooks are in place. The hard part is hosting. Pluralkit is huge compared to most discord bots. They used to have lots of downtime, but now they run it across a lot of shards.

I once knew a system with 400 members. That’s not common, but it is a thing. Systems of around 10 people are very common. Discord only allows up to 5 accounts. And only up to 1 account on mobile. And besides, having to maintain separate email accounts, even for a small system, is a burden. What about walk-ins and dormancies? What about new members who are still figuring themselves out and might want a change of name later? Pluralkit makes it all simple.

I haven’t even got Lemmy running yet, I’ll still trying to compose Docker.

I’ve never used docker before. It’s a strange newfangled technology I don’t understand. Back in my day you either used apt-get, or you compiled it yourself. I want to learn, and I thought installing Lemmy would be a good learning opportunity, but I’m finding myself chasing my own tail instead. My docker version is Docker version 24.0.2, build cb74dfc, and google is seeming to indicate that’s docker engine. I can’t see how docker desktop would be trying to run on ubuntu.

Cannot autolaunch D-Bus without X11 $DISPLAY

Looks like you need more skills to be able to install it

I used to be with ‘it’, but then they changed what ‘it’ was. Now what I’m with isn’t ‘it’ anymore and what’s ‘it’ seems weird and scary. It’ll happen to you!