Brains are weird so that checks out

I don’t think the speed of the electrical impulse would change, but yes reaction time would. Perception is more about our brain processing signals than it is about the signals themselves. What you experience yourself as seeing is not the raw image going into your eyes. Slower processing means you’re also less likely to see, as in be aware of, details.

This is why tired driving is incredibly dangerous.

I agree that we need to find a way to make this communal rather than individualistic, but government backing isn’t that. It would be nice if that happened and all, but with a thesis like that it feels like it’s missing the mark calling state-hosting "community ". How do we make self-hosted services something that can serve at the level of the community? Like a load balancing reverse proxy that points to the servers those in the community can host and everyone invites their friends and neighbours.

Thanks!

When my phone scans a QR code it shows what the URL text is without needing to go to the URL. Any time you’re thinking about going to a link you gotta consider the risks, but if it says restrauntname.com/menu I’ll feel better about it than if it’s a url shortener

Plain, readable urls rather than using shortening services is a step in the right direction, but it won’t stop lookalike phishing.

The more concerning thing going on is Debian potentially embracing AI, which I am very much not a fan of.

Can you elaborate on this, or point me to where I can read about it? Getting away from AI was a part of the reason I ditched Windows :/

You deserve that money more than anyone who parties on a yacht does.

Besides, it only seems generous because you and them live in fundamentally different financial worlds. If they were actually generous they’d pay enough taxes for you to have fully funded education with a liveable stipend.

This is really good advice for you, OP. Polyamory is potentially a very strong and fulfilling relationship structure, but it’s a lot of work and it’s not necessarily easy.

Most of the polyamorous people i know came into their relationships already down for polyamory. Opening up a monogamous relationship is risky, so it is a good idea to proceed in an informed and intentional manner.

There’s a lot of ways relationships can go. A part of polyamory means finding what works for y’all. Who knows, maybe it’ll end up as a monogamous situation where the new guy joins y’all platonically as chosen family.

To clarify, by polycule I mean the total chain of romantic relationships. Currently it’s four of us living together, and two more living together as a couple where me and my chosen family member have been dating one of them for years. For most of it, the section living together was three of us, romantically a v but more than that we think of eachother as chosen family.

It definitely helps with financial stability insofar as there’s a lot of buffer when someone is between jobs, but otherwise it’s not all that different. Housing space needs scale with number of people in the family, after all. We’re starting to look in to purchasing a house together, and to an extent the purchasing power of four working professionals helps there, but if we also want kids it means looking at big houses so again it kinda evens out. There’s also an added layer of legal complexity that becomes necessary with home ownership - we don’t have a ready made framework like marriage.

Edit: I realized I didn’t answer your first question. It depends. Not as much as a traditional monogamous married family would - we mostly have separate bank accounts. But we share most of our expenses (even split for ease) and have income-scaled split of rent.

You should look into polyamory/consensual non-monogamy. What you’re describing doesn’t have to be seen as some sort of weird perverse thing doomed to failure and return to the status quo. It is a legitimate family structure.

I’ve been in a polyamorous family for almost a decade now. Most of it was three (the sort of v shape you describe) but also with a larger (currently six total) non-domestic polycule. I’m not the tip of the v but I love my metamours (word for partners’ partners) as family.

It’s viable. The trick is a gratuitous amount of candid conversation, and a dedication to the family.

Thanks for explaining. There is a lot of conflicting information out here - do you have any sources for where I can learn more?

See my response to feebleneedle. No port forwarding limits connections

Were you using a VPN at the time? I was under the impression that the issue is at standard anything involving ports just doesn’t work with a VPN because it would be trying to get to the port on the VPN, which the VPN would rightly refuse unless you’d set it up to forward that port

Do you know where I can learn more about this? That’s a pretty important detail to be as glossed over as it is in this community

Doesn’t that completely defeat the purpose of using a VPN?

Mullvad is great if privacy is your only metric, but it’s not unique in that respect and no port forwarding is a serious limitation in this context. I’ve been looking into alternatives and AirVPN and OVPN both look reputable.

See my response to feebleneedle. It works, but it’s not just that it’s slower. Port forwarding is important for the health of the community.

AirVPN and OVPN are options that seem to be of similar integrity to Mullvad.

I think it’s both? I’m assuming you get fewer seeds you can connect to as well.

Either way, seeding issues are leeching issues, in the grand scheme of things.

Edit: I only stress the seed side because I’ve found I get things plenty fast even with Mullvad, so not explaining the issue and just talking about down speed can make it seem unnecessary, when it is in fact critical to the health of the community.

Without port forwarding you can only connect to those who do have it set up. Doing so yourself allows you to be a better citizen of the internet and share with people who don’t know what it is.

(Caveat: I am one of those people who don’t understand it and am just parroting what was explained to me when I asked about this)