A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.

Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.

Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.

  • @cobwoms@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    my son calls me baba. i’ve met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol

      • @zenforyen@feddit.org
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        Nonbinary household with conservative upbringing. That would certainly blow the mind of certain people.

        “Excuse me, honored ancestor, I need to defecate” - Timmy, 5 years old

  • @steeznson@lemmy.world
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    My friend’s father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her “Dad”. Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.

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    I read the title as a programming question at first…

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          CVE-2025-j - Data leak due to uninitialized variable for children of non-binary parents

          Children referring to non-binary parents may use uninitialized variable in speech when referring to the parent. This can expose personal information when referring to the non-binary parent. All children who are users of the English language are potentially vulnerable. Children who already have a preferred title for their parent are unaffected. To mitigate this the parent and child should discuss what preferred title the child should use.

          Due to the extreme widespread usage of the English language and the difficulty with patching, there is unlikely to be a comprehensive fix for this soon.

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    Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.

    If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.

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    The words “mom” and “dad” are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.

    I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child’s wawa

    • Clay_pidginOP
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      I like this. It would be awesome to be named after a gas station chain.

      • @TheDoozer@lemmy.world
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        Show some respect.

        It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).

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      I just mean that I don’t often hear parents addressing their kids as “Son” except in '50s media! I’m sure it happens.

    • @grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org
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      Yeah. I had to carefully word my dad’s obituary to not gender me–I wasn’t out yet, but it would have added more pain to the event if I’d been misgendered in it. Luckily, I have a sibling, so I able to rework the first draft from “survived by his son ___ and daughter ___” to be “survived by his children __ and __”.

      Anyways, if I had a kid I think I’d just go by my name, or any nickname they came up with. I called my binary parents by their names so it doesn’t feel weird to me.